My sweet friend Astin Sibbernsen is guest posting today on Poised Blog. I love her life and her walk with God! I felt her story would encourage the hearts of some single gals out there. ~Terra
Since June of this year I have been on a journey. It is a journey that has challenged, strengthened and changed me; it allowed me to learn new things about myself. In June, I pledged to change my focus away from my own desires and to focus solely on my relationship with God for six months. The challenge was brought to me by a dear friend, and she and I together have had the most incredible journey we could have ever imagined. The idea came from the amazing book by P.B. Wilson titled, Your Knight in Shining Armor.
The goal of the book is to allow God, not the world, to get you ready for your future husband. The book encourages its readers to allow God to take control of their dating life, so the reader can stop torturing themselves over when, where, and how they will meet their future husband. My friend and I vowed to put dating aside for six months to seek God and allow him to “reconstruct” us into the Godly women we are destined to be. I personally decided to make this pledge not because I have dated a lot, but because I felt I didn’t have my life fully placed in God’s hands. I will always have the struggle of giving the reigns over to God, (because I do have slight Type A tendencies) but these past couple of months have shown me how easy life is when you give it over to God. You don’t have to worry about school, job situations, and financial situations. God has it all planned out, he just wants us to give it over to him so he can blow our socks off.
As I reviewed the journal I have kept over the past six months, I am amazed at how much I have learned and changed. If you would have seen me before the journey you would have seen a girl who thought she knew what it meant to be a Godly woman. A girl who thought she had it all together and knew exactly what God wanted her to do. Well, looking back, I was completely wrong. This journey has allowed me to reflect on my gifts and talents, have peace with past situations, and realize how strong the power of prayer really is. It has also taught me to pray with boldness and to meditate on God’s word night and day. This journey has also caused me to change a lot of things about myself. I changed what music I listen to as well as how I take care of my body because, “You reap what your sow” (Galatians 6:7). These changed needed to happen in order for me to be healthy: spiritually, mentally and physically.
“Obedience to God through the Holy Spirit brings its own reward. It provides us with the opportunity to become more Christ like.”
I am twenty-three and have never really dated, so I am constantly hearing, “You are of dating age” and “What are you waiting for?”
Well, to answer this question specifically, I’m waiting on God.
During this season of waiting, God showed me how much I needed to change before I could commit to a Godly relationship; a relationship my heart (and I’m sure every young girl’s heart) longs for.
I believe God has allowed me to be single for many reasons. If I was in a relationship I might not have been able to make the time to go to Africa last September, earn straight A’s in my schooling or be able to focus on the plan God has for my life. If I was in a relationship before going through this 6 month experience, I would have easily put my boyfriend before God. One thing this book has taught me comes from the scripture found in 1 Peter 1:6 which reads, “So be truly glad. There is much joy ahead, even though you have endured many trials for a while. These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies Gold.” This scripture gave me so much encouragement during the past 6 months. I’m being honest when I say that it wasn’t all that easy.
Sometimes we have to go through the valley to reach the mountain top. The past six months came with plenty of tears as I watched my friends go off with their boyfriends while I sat at home alone, but it was through this experience that God allowed my faith to grow. He tested me to make sure I was 100% committed to him. This waiting period had me trust and believe God that this experience would be meaningful. During these 6 months, God has blessed me in so many ways! I have been able to be a youth leader for my church’s Wednesday night youth program over the summer, pray for my dad when he was hospitalized, and I was initiated into the Educator Honors Society. I also haven’t had to worry about financial situations and I passed all of my teaching certification exams the first time!!!. This journey has given me a hunger for God’s Word like I haven’t ever had before. Yes, I had a hunger for God’s Word while at Passion (I mean who doesn’t….Louie is the best) but not like what I have now.
Since completing this journey, I feel I have been equipped with the right tools to be a godly girlfriend in a Christian relationship and I thank God for leading me through this journey because it has taught me so much about myself, but most importantly it has allowed me to experience God on a more personal and intimate level, one I haven’t ever experienced before. So, if you are in a relationship, fresh out of a relationship or like me, just not big into the dating scene, I encourage you to take this 6 month journey. Allow God to completely break you down and rebuild you as a powerful God filled woman.
“Fairy tales may not always come true, but God’s plan surely will.”
P.B. Wilson, Your Knight in Shining Armor